“When we focus on our gratitude, the tide of disappointment goes out and the tide of love rushes in.” – Kristin Armstrong
~The topic of how to properly handle disappointment and failure has been well regarded as crucial to the betterment of one’s mental health. It has almost become cliché to an extent due to its consistently being brought up in daily social topics. As seen in the case of multiple prolific sports athletes who have openly made it known to the public that they need some time to focus on their mental health. Twenty-three year- old professional tennis phenomenon and four-time Grand Slam winner, Naomi Osaka, earlier this year in an elongated Instagram post opted not to play in her upcoming match tournaments due to her personal ongoing bouts with depression. Four-time Gold Medal winning Olympic gymnast, Simone Biles, also decided to take a step away from her sport during the 2020 Olympics as a result of suffering from “twisties” — a frightening state of disassociation that prevents athletes from successfully completing a skill, which can lead to serious injury (Lewis CBS News 2021)”. Both of these athletes have consistently remained elite performers in their respective crafts, entertaining viewers and fans of all ages worldwide. Their triumphs and failures are publicly televised and conversed about by sports network commentators, podcast hosts, etc–which can heap serious amounts of pressure and mental obstacles that they have to endure and overcome. However, how do we as private non-celebrities deal with handling personal disappointments and learn from our seemingly inevitable “failures” in a healthy non-self-destructive manner?
I have found that one of the best things an individual can do in moments of disappointment is to verbalize their problems; allowing themselves a moment to face and acknowledge the negative feeling–recognize and salvage the lessons that can be learned from the circumstance–thus giving them a chance to construct a plan of resilience, enabling the step forward to be one of confidence and overcoming.